The Investment argument

When people learn about my decision to stay unmarried, they often ask me "who will look after you when you grow old?" I don't understand if this is what married is all about, a retirement fund? Let's for once assume that it's an investment, let's calculate how profitable it is?

Now, if you marry at 25, and assuming that you may need assistance at around 50. You have at least 25 years to pay the premium. Now how do you pay the premium? not just by money, it's investment of time and labour to maintain a good relationship with your spouse and her relatives. Buy overly expensive suits, diamonds and bigger house. Fight with your neighbours, parents and society. Stick to or switch hairstyle, jobs and cities. Give up eating, start eating and cook(sometimes for a lot of people). And finally have kids. Kids are part of investment too, they are supposed to be young and rich so that you don't have to run to hospitals and care about bills.

Now, i am not going to calculate the money involved, but considering the time you save and money you don't have to share, and things you don't have to buy. I am pretty sure one can save more money without getting into these troubles, and the time which is saved can be used to lot of good ways.

And in the end any type of treatment you need will still need money, so if you have money you can get the best services, may be hire a personal nurse who is a professional and take care of you better than your wife. If you made all this investment to have someone to take care of you and you don't have money, it will be a waste. And look at the risk involved:

you are counting on the fact that your spouse won't die before you or get more seriously ill than you.
you are counting on the fact that your spouse will love you enough to not let you rot and die
you are counting on the fact that your kids will take care of you like you did when they were young.
And you are counting on the fact that you are going to get old before you die.

That's too big a risk for my investment, so i would rather spend my old age in hospital being taken care by pretty nurses and accompanied by old,sick fellas.

If you are worried about the fact that such an investment will save you hard work in later age than that's another excuse for not exercising. So work out, be strong in your old age like "client eastwood" in "gran torino". Save money to hire maids who can do it better and make most of your life. Why live your life worrying about tomorrow when there's lot to do today!

marriage and free will

When I hear people talking about marriage, they talk as if there is no other choice or marriage is part of your destiny and you can't do anything about it. Consider my conversation with this guy:

Me: I am not going to marry EVER!
The guy: You are just saying this, but everybody has to get married.
Me: why?
The guy: why means? you will be doomed if you stay single.

Sounds more like some religious ritual. A lot of children grow up with idea that marriage is necessary part of life and you need to do it without even thinking or asking question about it. And as they grow up they see that in their community, at certain age people get married. When they themselves reach that age marriage seems inevitable, the best they could think of, is to defer it for some years. Marriage take priority over everything- career, education, fun.

And I don't know what's wrong with parents, marriage of their children is like a very big loan which they have to pay and otherwise they will lose everything.So as soon as their child reach certain age they keep nagging him for marriage like a loan recovery agent.Then there are other parents who think that marriage is a wonder pill for all kind of problem-

child is irresponsible: get him married, marriage will bring him sense of responsibility.
child is shy: get him married, he will learn to be social
child is promiscuous : get him married, if he has wife, he won't look elsewhere.
child has any bad habit: get him married, wife will look after him.
child is homosexual: get him married because homosexuality is a disease only cured tied to person of opposite sex


So all I can say is marriage is a institution which is forced on people by child brain washing, emotional blackmailing and fear of moral, social and cultural boycott. This is shameful.

The Idea

I first decided that I will never get married when I was 15 or 16( I was in class X then), and at that age when you people that you don't ever want to get married, people laugh at you, because they think that you have no freaking idea what you are talking about and you will think differently when you grow up. I also thought (and feared) the same, but I am 25 now,all grown up and still firm(at my decision). In fact now I spent lot of time discussing married people and unmarried people who are pro-marriage about advantages/disadvantages of marriage. It's kinda fun thing to do, because people have such a silly excuses for getting married.
So my idea here is to discuss about my opinion on "why one should not get married", my experiences as bachelor and counter arguing various arguments in favour of marriage. Sound's fun, isn't it?